Reflections from yesterday's challenge:
Today's Topic:
Here's some further food for thought. How long have you been dwelling on it? Look at this thought/memory and describe whether is of concern within your mind or on paper. What is it about this memory that has got you attached that you relive it over and over again? Hey isn't it great we have such great minds that we can bring up a memory and consciously analyse it at the same time? It may be a fight we've had with someone, it could be the loss of someone we love, it could be the harsh words a person has said to you, an illness that could be still challenging you that the mind seems to be unable to pull away from, a family member that has p*ssed you off to the extent that you no longer talk and you keep thinking about what got it started...well I don't know what yours are but I can assure you that many of us and this includes me have thoughts that we dwell on every day. They seem to magically appear whenever they like, a movie to train us for life and lead us to what's next. (A Frozen song comes to mind...Let it go)
Ruminating is running the same thoughts over and over again, Looking at the same worries or scenes in your mind. This is not today's challenge but just another idea. One way is to set aside time during the day when you focus on what your are feelings are, be conscious of them, look at them loud and proud. Give them sharp focus and ask what is it about them that I need to learn from that I don't know about yet. When another person makes a mistake, see that as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding. What are some of the thought that consistently run through your mind? Have you found some yet?
Dwelling (on) means, to spend a lot of time thinking or talking about something unpleasant. It's time to be mindful of what emotions are evoked inside your thoughts you dwell on. Sadness, anger, fear, resentment, hurt, longing, grief, anxiety etc...? Does this thought link with other thoughts that keep the cinema going? Here's an idea and not today's challenge but this will give you extra gold stars in the personal lesson academy that is you. Give yourself a time limit say 10 or 15 minutes, blow the memory up into a full surround sound, popcorn moment. Once you've ended the time, then whenever you find yourself being conscious of the memory again and about how you are feeling, tell yourself, " NOPE. I'm in control, I already worked on that today, I'll address it again tomorrow."
Remember it's a learning lesson for you only. Your past cannot hurt you, it's the magnificence of the brain where these thoughts dwell and for some reason, some memories are so impinged on our psyche that we keep bringing them up. For what reason? One hopes that our humble brain doesn't do so to torture us, there's obviously some logic to the process right? I'm sure there's some scientist that has come up with a theory but right now I'm interested in discovering my own (and your thoughts) on the matter. Why do they appear and we persist in watching them over and over again? Why the heck does our mind want to keep showing us those movies? All I can say we sure are complex beings and it's time to learn the lesson.
Letting go, is the hardest thing to do in life. We attach ourselves to emotions and scenarios that happen in the past all too often. I'm now looking at my mind in a different way and willing to learn. If the past is training, and we are meant to learn them why not take the challenge? Make this your year to shine. Think about what went wrong, but only in terms of how you will make sure that, next time, you and the people around you will know how to make sure it goes right. Now for that song.....Let it go, let it go
Can't hold it back anymore
Let it go, let it go
Turn away and slam the door!
Our challenge today:
https://www.futureme.org/
Write yourself a letter and set the time when you want it emailed back to you, (after your email address is verified). Write about what it is you've been dwelling on. What could you change. Where would you like to be in say a years time. How could you make 2015 your year to shine. Basically write anything you need to let go. You'll be surprised when you receive it back as I'm sure you would have forgotten by then. Be surprised ay how you've grown.
Let me know how you went and how you felt undertaking this task. If you'd like to get in touch with me personally email me at [email protected]
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